Nov 05, 2015 Let me paint a scenario for you, I’m sure most of us have been there…narrating from a female point of view (because I am a lady) but please edit where necessary in your mind (*side note for the guys*)
Your friend hooks you up with a “blind date”, you’re nervous and excited knowing that you have to be “on fleek” for the date, so you wear the outfit you recently ordered from ASOS, you get all dolled up, hop into an Uber taxi (for those whose date’s car is “at the mechanic”), meet your date and at first glance you’re thinking “hmmm, not bad looking…he ticks most of my boxes physically, let’s see if he has the personality to match” (yes, I know it should be all about the personality but let’s face it, there are some things physically we can’t compromise on… no matter how much we try to kid ourselves). He’s got the date planned out so he takes you to a nice restaurant (perhaps Cactus or The Oriental). As the night progresses you find yourselves having less and less to talk about, he’s boring and pretty much not your type (personality wise) resulting in multiple awkward silences. Now you’re thinking “I need to get out of here and I need to do so quickly”, so my question is…how would you get out of a date that wasn’t going well?
Here’s my advice to you…it doesn’t have to go that far, if you have a friend or family member who has your back, plan it with him or her. There should be a signal between you and the friend or cousin (whether you choose to do it by phone call or actual presence, is up to you). I’ve played a few characters for friends and family (using the popular phone call method) whereby I’ve called them throughout the date with half an hour intervals, and once (or if) they gave the indication they needed to get out of the date, I’d pretend that there was some kind of emergency and voila! The date is over