Celibacy, for those who don’t know, means zero sex. Zero fun in the sheets, only hand holding, staring into each other’s eyes and dropping bae off at their door. In this society we live in where the legal age for sex is 16, my 12 year old cousin looks 25, skirts are shorter than ever and in some cultures some 14 year olds are on baby number two how are we expected to stay celibate?
Oreka Godis dives into this controversial topic with Sade Ladipo outspoken TV Personality and Chizoba Ofeogu Emotional Confidence Coach with differing opinions. On team celibacy rocks, Chizoba (who is celibate) says that Christians should not fall into the trap of adopting the “Assistant Holy Ghost role” just because you are celibate does not make you a pastor or give you access to the book of life. She says to be celibate you should know why because if you have decided to go on strike and your partner is still working you will go from being the main plate to a side dish very quickly. If you want to be celibate find somebody who will grab.
On team no celibacy Sade says celibacy is unrealistic in today’s day and age. She says we should aim for sexual discipline, not just jumping from person to person. The saying is too much of a good thing is bad for you. But if you are celibate is it only in marriage that you get to have sex? So if you don’t marry will you be a virgin till you die? Scary thought right?
To watch the whole episode and weigh in on this controversial topic, Tune in to EbonyLife TV and Urban 96 FM Love Lounge on Mondays at 10pm WAT or Friday by 10:30pm WAT.